Written by Laura Barnes,Grace Kabaghe, Jacqueline Mphatso Kalenga, and Amess Nthala Mwamdaza
Cynthia: Mom, good afternoon. I’m home. How was your day?
Mom: It was good, and you? Did you learn a lot at school today?
C: Yes. The science teacher taught us about reproduction, how babies are made.
M: Come. Sit. Let’ s talk. I want to teach you what the Bible says about God’s plan for making babies, having sex.
C: The teacher said it is necessary for the human race to continue.
M: Yes. That’s true, but it is so much more than that. Do you remember the story of how God made Adam and Eve from the Bible, in Genesis 2?
C: A little bit. Wasn’t Eve made from a rib?
M: That’s right. On the sixth day of creation, God formed man out of dirt and breathed the breath of life into him. He placed him in a beautiful garden and told him to care for all of God’s creation, the plants and the animals. God told him he could eat from any tree except from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. God said, “It’s not good for man to be alone. I will make a suitable helper for him.” Adam named all the animals, but none of them were a suitable helper. So, God had Adam sleep and from a rib taken from his side, he made woman. Do you know what Adam said when he saw her for the first time?
C: Here it is in verse 23: He said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman’, for she was taken out of man.”
M: Read verse 24 too.
C: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Oh. Is this talking about marriage?
M: Yes. God’s plan for marriage is for one man and one woman to leave the homes they grew up in to start their own home as one. It’s the one flesh relationship. In verse 25 it says “Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”
C: I would be so ashamed if a man saw me naked.
M: Yes, and you should be because you are not married yet. But, Adam and Eve were married. They had a one flesh relationship. They had sex together because they were married. So, it is good and right for them to be naked in the privacy of their bedroom without experiencing any shame. Sex is a marriage gift that you should wait to enjoy until marriage.
What have you learned in school about reproduction or sex?
C: The teacher said that when a man puts his penis in the vagina, sperm travel up through the uterus to the fallopian tube where they unite with the woman’s egg. Then the egg travels down to the uterus where the baby will attach and grow.
M: Yes ,that is the definition of sex. And that is how babies are made. There are many actions that lead to this. Holding hands, kissing, and touching are actions that can lead to sex. Married couples do this to show love to one another.
C: Why have I always heard that sex is a sin?
M: Sex within marriage is not a sin, but sex outside of marriage is a sin with lots of consequences. The Bible is very clear that a man should only have sex with his wife and a wife should only have sex with her husband. You see, sex is a special gift that God gave to married people so that they would be united as one, in the one flesh relationship. This marriage gift is to be shared by one man and one woman only in the committed relationship of marriage.
C: I want that kind of marriage one day.
M: The way a man loves and protects his wife and the way a wife respects and honors her husband is a living example to others of how Jesus loves his bride, the church. Marriages that obey and honor God’s instructions help people understand how much Jesus loves us.
C: It seems to me sex is more than just making babies.
M: Yes. Sex unites a man and a woman and makes them one. God’s instructions are for our own good, so we can enjoy this gift as He designed it to be in Genesis 2. But, sadly sin entered the world and the Father of Lies caused a lot of problems for humans. Tomorrow I will tell you this sad story. Here. Watch your sister. I need to finish washing the clothes.